Basically, if there is no existence there is nothing, try to think if there is nothing at all, nothing existing, every thing blank, no you taking the thought, no world, no creature, nothing, it is a horrifying thought. Now, there are also two basic things that give to existence, namely, -LIFE . Do not be confused, one may say, life is existence, let me tell you life gives rise to existence and hence, can not be the same, life, also has characteristics or behaviors that govern it, that is why it behaves differently with different individuals depending on the way they behave themselves. Secondly,
-LOVE. You see this factor has the power to give and take the existence of something o someone that directly or indirectly depends on it. In the direct sense, someone can die gradually because of the insufficient love he or she is getting from someone they pour their whole love to, or the betrayal of that person. In the indirect sense, someone may live because of the help rendered to him or her by a kind person or persons.
This two factors will be dealt with properly as time goes on, but we need to know that existence is a gift, and every one deserves this wonderful gift, hence, we should know how to treat others, because in every bit of thing we do, we are directly or indirectly gradually adding or subtracting the bits of existence from someone. Firstly, let us deal with the factor life.
Life has characters and responds to individuals depending on its principles. Due to your own behaviors or your insufficient understanding of life, you may have problems with your Relationships, Academics, Finances, Emotions, and Social well being. AS you should have known, we mostly deal relationship and emotion problems, so we would be discussing on the effect of life on Relationships and your Emotions. Let us look at this story and extract one of the lessons we would be focusing on shortly.
(This is the story of Malis. Her other details are not disclosed) summarized.Malis as it seems was indeed in love with john, as she said, they were going to get married as soon as he is through with the compulsory long term training that the organization he is working for made them all go through, this training was taking place in Dallas, were he met his long time school friend who was a lady that had interest in him, but he does not have any interest whatsoever for her but was still tender to her and was slightly avoiding her, later this lady followed him to new York where Malis was unknowing to John, and finally when John found out and asked why, she told him all, but he reassured her like old times that nothing was going to happen between them, and even purposefully mentioned Malis name and told her he was getting married to to deter her, but she did not let go. She called Malis and lied to her that she was Johns former girlfriend and that they still saw and went out in Dallas, and that she does not want to let go of him now. Malis was furious and tried confirming this from john, but, the day she chose to go the lady was, and the first thing she heard as she tried to enter was ‘am sorry josin, I can not leave Malis now’- immediately, se angrily left, then he completed the sentence by saying ‘ and never’. But Malis never returned. And was sore to find out after five years that she was wrong and had missed the love of her life, because, she is unhappily married to some one else- ASSUMPTION. Yes, this thing can kill, destroy, frustrate relationships. This is the first lesson we would be looking at.