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You become what you think.

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I am sure this saying is not new to us, "we are what we think or become what we think. I am going to confirm that. You see, what we dwell on most times, or our constant thoughts defines us. If you want to tell what you like most, do a recalling on your constant thoughts
 If you want or desire a change in your live, start from your thoughts, because, that is where our tomorrow is formed. If you are following closely,  I said something about imagination in one of my posts; it's usefulness,  it's effects,  etc. This is closely linked to it because your thoughts form your imaginations, and your imaginations make up mostly of your tomorrow.  Nevertheless,thoughts could be positive or negative, and often destroy you if you dwell on it from the negative side, and can help you, if it is positively charged. On the other hand, imaginations mostly are things you desire, but irrespective of that, they both tend to appear in or affect your future. They  do not just jumb into your fut…

For rational decisions, Dating should not be a need, but a choice.

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Dating.  A need or a choice? Today, I would like to talk about this important topic. You see, this should be understood. So we need to pay careful attention.  A need is more likely to be defined as a want that requires pressing attention,  on the other hand, a choice is a want that does not necessarily require immediate attention, as to like getting it immediately.  With choice, you are trusted to make a very good decision,  but sometimes,  needs can make you to take irrational decisions.  So in dating, or rather,  the best time, and condition to date is when it is up to us, and we know we are not under pressure.  Most women in their 30's tend to make irrational decisions on deciding their mate due to the fact that they are under pressure to get married. These pressure may come from friends,  family,  society, or even self imposed. In whatever conditions we find ourselves  we should be careful not to make decisions that affect our relationships when in need, because it will hav…

Sex, the base of relationships?

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Who said sex can fill the gaps that is needed in a relationship. Why confuse the function of sex in a relationship, it does not heal the wounds in relationships, it does not create real relationships, it does not keep a relationship,  it does not tell if someone is true to you. It only satisfies a need. I read a post by someone, she was asking if it was okay to have sex with her new boyfriend, cause, it is just fresh.  The truth of the matter is sex should be removed totally,  and replaced later after marriage. If you find yourself thinking, " this lady is not just serious ", then believe me, you are heading the wrong way in terms of maintaining your relationship. Love is not sex.
Lust is acting within you no matter how you want to paint it. Ask why relationships of the recent times often break even before they begin? The foundation is the problem. Believe me, when you think less of sex and more of the person as a personality to know, with time, you will find out why she a…

Love yourself for who you are.

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Love yourself for who you are.
 why do you allow your thoughts limit you. Most people are the real enemies of themselves,  even when there have all it takes or the medium through which they can get to have what it takes comes their way, they here this little voice within them say," you see this? I can't do it. Believe me friend, even if you were made to solve that problem,  the person may even die without solving it. To be who you are meant to be,  you must love yourself first, not an enemy instead, by discouraging yourself,  you are becoming an enemy to yourself.  Who are those people that you see and get shy? They did not give you your actual potential,  infact, you are there for them, so that they can be blessed from what you can offer. Try speaking up even when you are afraid,  if fear arises and you know what you have to say is essential,  first convince yourself  to be able to recover your confidence before you can stand to convince others boldly. If you love yourself fo…
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The Enemy Is From The Inside.
In most relationships, bonds suffer due to regular pattern of allowing  emotions control our daily lives. Emotions are made to create,  not to destroy,  but it destroys when it is not properly managed in adverse conditions. Misunderstanding,  that needs the medication of patience that will be accessed in minutes unknowingly to the client, will be the reason for a total fall of a beautiful relationship. When we don't control the thoughts,  words, actions,circumstances plus false reality of things create by your assuptions, we let our inside destroy the relationships we hold dear. Take your time to check yourself and make the necessary corrections. See you happier.