Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Anger is a blindfolder.

ANGER steals conscience, also, most times, the ability to think straight, the ability to judge right are stolen away by anger. Anger has destroyed a lot of relationships, and is still doing so. If you know what anger can do to you, if you know that anger can end what is not supposed to end? Can part you from someone special, can part you from your divine destiny.  Example, a little misunderstanding that usually reoccurs, and in fact, your friend is not guilty, but you don’t know.  Also, because this misunderstanding reoccurs itself in different means you don’t just believe what ever he says again, furious; you ignite his anger by yours since he is tired of explaining.  And now, assuming you had lingered a little, just a little, you would have known the truth, the due time for the truth is set, but no, you’ve lost him. Sorry.  Was anger to blame?
Everyone come around times when they are angry voluntarily or involuntarily, but the ability to control it is what matters. These are mini –wars that we face, it is a kind of war that peace negotiations would be advised, and depending on what caused it, we should be careful not to lose a lot. There are different ways to subside anger, why not just leave the scene, and immediately try doing something that you have known through experience helps pacify your anger. Like listening to soft music, being with friends to relax, watching funny videos, etc trust me, you would be glad you toke the choice, even if the person that got you angry was guilty.
Anger is not a choice, it does not solve any thing, and it complicates things. If you are angry for the misbehavior of your child, that is quite a different case, but it should still be kept under control. It has been discovered that some parents are responsible for some irreversible injury, break up from families by children, also causing great physical disorders through untamed anger. You see, anger takes away your sensibility; it takes away reality from you and brings it back when you are cooled. It can prompt you to do tremendous stupidity mostly through violence. It is not a friend to good relationships neither is it required in it. Although we are carried into it unconsciously, irrespective of that, when we are inside it we know, for the seek of your future plans, tame it. You may need that person at a time when you can’t access him or her as a result of anger produced break up. Do not let it deprive you of future happiness, take care.

Monday, September 21, 2015

Little things are big in the inside.

Everything that exists has a formation. Formation, which mostly begins small, that, is the start, if there is no starting of something, then there will not be a development of that thing. What I am actually saying is that, little things add up together to create bigger things, pictures, growth, progress etc. So we are advised to start from the very beginning to set something right or start the creation of something that will surely have great height of advancement.
Likewise, in a relationship, one has to consider little things that may be shifted aside as nothing, because, these ‘nothing’ may someday create something that you may worry about. Human beings differ, hence, you have to look into those little things they consider as important or what you feel from experience with them that they consider important, so that you can carefully progress to great heights with them. Not everyone think sending flower periodically is lovely, but, some do think it matters. To some, if you gradually reduce the rate at which you call them, they will feel you are losing interest in them, whereas you are still okay with them. This is the reason why understanding is needed, with this you will often hear, ‘he knows me, and with him I don’t have to explain myself’. Remember to celebrate periodic events like birthday of love ones, this will make them feel special, loved. A little encouragement, motivation, comment, show of care that you may think this person can do without, he looks strong, You don’t know if that may be his last source of strength to move on, to press on, to believe in himself, to take that big step. Always make sure you are giving out words of encouragement, kind comments, even though they do not seem to make any change at that moment. Sometimes, it is not easy to tolerate, some people may not have the patience, but, this is a process that causes a difference in some one’s live with your name permanently stamped as the cause of the change. The beautiful thing is that, in turn, other lives are transformed by this person you just helped, that is how it grows.
When someone knows you are careful about little things and that you pay attention to every detail of his or her life, they value you, and tell you a lot of things they do not share with other people, you become special, and they listen to what you have to say even when they don’t listen to others.  Choose from today to make someone feel special, it is essential in relationships, don’t ignore it.

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Tell now and live tomorrow.


Yes, people, it is very true. Imagine, you met this person today, got to know him better some few weeks later, and it is advancing into a good relationship. But, you have a past, a past that may destroy your present relationship, or the characters from the past can show up to claim you to them and hence, cause a major problem for you. Why allow the past to destroy your present. The solution is simple. Tell it now, at the very beginning of something new, let them all know, so they won’t mock you because of it tomorrow. Sweet heart, it is very important, forget the shame it may bring, because, along with the shame, it will surly bring a healing to you.
Most couples, friends, end up relationships that should have being managed in the right way from the very beginning. Look at this individual, LINDA CRUSS.  She got herself involved in relationships in a tender age that got complicated. As a result of this many relationships, she got pregnant twice, and now, she has two young boys. Later, she met Rolins in Britain, they loved each other, but, due to the fact that she had being rejected by those that had heard of her story, and  they had refused to marry her,  because, they do not want to be responsible for the kids. For this sake, she did not tell Rolins, and she did not also tell her mum who is taking care of her kids that she will be getting married to Rolins in two weeks after their relationship that was three years old. She wanted to secure him before he gets to her any thing deep about her, and she would try her best to suppress the story to make it work. Her mum visited three days before the wedding date, and that led to the end of the relationship, Rolins did not give her any chance for explanations.
No one would want to lose a beautiful relationship; also, no one would like to be lied to, deceived, and kept in the dark in any relationship. Take care.