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How To Communicate Your Expectations In A Relationship.

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One very important thing we have to take note of is the fact that every single person that is about to commit to a relationship has his or her expectations. Most times, these are things the person is expecting the other person to either have, do, or even be. Majority of marriages and relationships have been destroyed due to failures in meeting expectations. Hence, it becomes very important to help people in dealing with this problem. Here, we are introducing four major things to know and do that will help you in communicating your expectations easily and also help you in the long run concerning maintaining its effectiveness. The Four Key Things To Know And Do. # 1.  How to go about communicating your expectations. The early stages of a relationship are the best times to comfortably talk about your expectations. This is also very important especially when you are sure that it's heading towards a stable and long-lasting relationship. When you feel free an

Dealing with Abandonment and divorce, with Randy Guttenberger.

Randy Guttenberger has helped a lot in explaining how one can deal with abandonment or divorce. Randy Guttenberger, author of Managing Your Crazy Self.

The Source Of True Beauty ( Lifestyle and Relationships)

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  Image source: Dove Models. As serious as this is, it is almost disregarded, the consequence is rather threatening. What I am actually talking about is the indirect debate of the source of true beauty. Beauty is desired by all, admired by all, and at some point or in all points, employed by all! Beauty is positive, never connoting anything negative, now, that is where the problem lies. This is because our current society has bought the idea that beauty and all of it are sourced from physical adornment. There is one thing to be physically beautiful, and another thing to be internally beautiful. Having said that, I will quickly throw in that true beauty then is a combination of both the physical and internal ( character wise) beauty. Find out why I say this, and why having just one of these separate beauties is a tremendous problem in any relationship! Relationships is an important and an inevitable part of life. When it comes to family relationships, the physical beauty i

Dove Models.

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Dove Models. We are Mirrors. Our bodies are temples, and are to be sacred. It should house the right spirit. Let your moderation be known, so that God can dwell in you. Beauty is not found in costly apparel, accessories, hair arrangement, clothes, shoes, and lip wears. It is from within, from the inside. So let your moderation be known to all men as joint heirs in Christ, and as children of an honourable king! Philippians 4:5.

Are You A Christian?

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Listen, it is needful, overly needful to ask this exact question. Especially in this wonderful time and generation, in this time when water and oil mix very well. What am I saying? I simply asked are you a Christian? Approximately 97% percent of total Christians will tell me confidently that they are Christians, while they are actually the "saved, but unsaved".   Let me explain, when you received Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life, you are automatically and invisibly but realistically transformed into a light, one part of the bible calls you salt, as salts. Now you are totally different from the world. Your association with the world will and should by default transform others. You are not anymore made to follow after the world or be shaped by them or like them. Look, do a random survey on 90% 0f Christians in your community to find potentially harmful and unclean songs in the song lists on their phone. Even you, yourself, could be very guilty. You may want to

Minimal and excessive praise on man, it's effects.

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Show me a man that doesn't love being praised for a good job well done, for his efforts, or for any other valuable sacrifice. Show me a woman, lady or a young child who would not crave for praises after doing a good thing, a thing worthy of praise? Of course, as humans, we love to be praised especially when we know we deserve it. This is so until we come to understand the other side of praises. Praises help to encourage, it helps in the act of appreciation, it helps when the worth of a person is to be shown, and so on, but it also washes away an important state of mind. It also slowly pulls down a person, and with the person being blind to its effects. This is especially true when the Praises gets excessive. I must let you know that when you look at life, it should teach you that praises, especially when excessive should be dreaded. Why? There are two reasons.  Praises take away the real picture or true meaning of something from the giver of whatever the thing may be, by redire

The Unseen Determining the Seen.

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" In the physical, there is an unseen, which is unseen but still determines the seen. A healthy interaction between the seen and unseen brings about a perfection in all things. This healthy relationship is exactly a relationship between you and the owner of both the seen and unseen" ~ Holy Spirit  ~  Marrian Lemeh. It is a fact that the life we live have  solid unseens. It is even hence important to know that this unseen determines what we see or what you see. Look, in this, it is certain to know that people believe that they run their lives, and yes to some extent they do. The fact is the things you do and choices you make are directly or indirectly influenced by an unseen source that influence happenings, that in turn influences you. So, the unseen influences your thoughts and actions, they know the structure and morphology of life, and a healthy interaction between the seen ( you) and the unseen  ( them) yields a wonderful existence. Imagine two expert brains, two

Achiever Mel on Divorce with Randy Guttenberger.

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Behavioral Analyst and Author of 'Managing Your Crazy Self' , discusses on why there has been an increase in divorce in the recent years.

Show off to throw off.

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It is very interesting how most people do not even know about this, even though it is dated back to the beginning of time. This principle is a very simple one, it varies in its pace, as it can take its time to fully materialize or it can come to play immediately. It is important to know that this is one of the principles of life. Hence, I will say to you, ' show off '  to be  'thrown off '. What does this mean?  We all know the meaning of  'showing off ', right?  Right, It is a principle that when one consciously shows off, he or she, or they, are indirectly setting themselves to be 'thrown off '. This is because, it is a life principle, showing off makes one lose his or her complete control of rational thinking for that specified moment, and it increases the hunger for more unnecessary show offs along the line. How many of you have seen a wrestler come into the ring with full aura of self might, and on entry, into half the minute for initial entry h