Friday, March 17, 2017

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Minimal and excessive praise on man, it's effects.

Show me a man that doesn't love being praised for a good job well done, for his efforts, or for any other valuable sacrifice. Show me a woman, lady or a young child who would not crave for praises after doing a good thing, a thing worthy of praise? Of course, as humans, we love to be praised especially when we know we deserve it. This is so until we come to understand the other side of praises. Praises help to encourage, it helps in the act of appreciation, it helps when the worth of a person is to be shown, and so on, but it also washes away an important state of mind. It also slowly pulls down a person, and with the person being blind to its effects. This is especially true when the Praises gets excessive.

I must let you know that when you look at life, it should teach you that praises, especially when excessive should be dreaded. Why? There are two reasons.  Praises take away the real picture or true meaning of something from the giver of whatever the thing may be, by redirecting his or her mind from the important thing already started. In other words, it blindingly destroys the true zeal that is responsible for an achievement, by making the achiever chase after praises instead, that alone can gradually destroy the work that has been started. To people who have understood this directly or indirectly, they try to avoid Praises when it comes to being able to concentrate fully.  An example is, imagine you started a big project you have always been dreaming of, this project has so many lives depending on it, and you are like the rescue to many. So far you have been doing good in helping lives. Along the journey, important folks start gathering around you as friends and in an effort to appreciate you on your good works so far, they start praising your work, this initial praise could be likened to the minimal praise, that is the encouragement. With time, and with more praises  ( excessive and unnecessary praises), you find yourself unable to be fully happy if you don't get the usual praises when you do the usual things you do. Now your passion has shifted from your main passion that had driven your project to satisfy people to get their praises. And in this way, compromising on things that you probably wouldn't compromise on could be very possible, as long as it gives you praises. Hence, shifting the main purpose and destroying a valuable genuine pursuit.

We must know that as humans, battling with imperfection, and trying to concentrate and focus on the goal, praises will be an enemy, because when it comes, it decreases your focus and concentration on the real things, hence increasing your imperfections. When you depend on it and don't get it, it destabilizes you and you lose the little you have. And if you are a Christian, you know that the Bible warns that you don't glory in yourself. But only in God who do not need to be perfected because he is totally perfect in all things. When you crave for praise, you, as the bible puts it, you glory in yourself, that is, seek your own glory. Which in this way will one day fail you. It should be noted that this is one of the life's principles.

Hence, to be wise, and learn as life points out these things, it's wise to help yourself and flee from praises. I tell you, excessive of it does no good. It will become an addition and when you don't get it, it will hit you down and destroy whatever is left if you do not get urgent help.
Without needing praises, the good purpose or reason of the good work you do should be your only driving force to move on triumphantly and maturely. Enjoy your week!

Saturday, February 11, 2017

The Seen and Unseen.

The Unseen Determining the Seen.

" In the physical, there is an unseen, which is unseen but still determines the seen. A healthy interaction between the seen and unseen brings about a perfection in all things. This healthy relationship is exactly a relationship between you and the owner of both the seen and unseen" ~ Holy Spirit  ~  Marrian Lemeh.

It is a fact that the life we live have  solid unseens. It is even hence important to know that this unseen determines what we see or what you see. Look, in this, it is certain to know that people believe that they run their lives, and yes to some extent they do. The fact is the things you do and choices you make are directly or indirectly influenced by an unseen source that influence happenings, that in turn influences you. So, the unseen influences your thoughts and actions, they know the structure and morphology of life, and a healthy interaction between the seen ( you) and the unseen  ( them) yields a wonderful existence.

Imagine two expert brains, two  entrepreneurs working on a new innovation,  one prefers some wonderful features to be on this new life saving device, the other says he prefers an entirely new feature instead of the one proposed by his partner, and there is a rivary between the two. If in the process of testing the effectiveness of this device as its construction is still in progress, and it is tested on some patients that are hopeless and venerable to death at anytime, just to see if its new features will work or will need modification. You should know that just like those patients, whose lives are directly dependant on those two entrepreneurs who are constant rivals,  and the patient's decision  to  listen to  a  particular entrepreneur, probably the one who brought the invention to life, is very important; our lives are constantly faced with listening to one unseen source or the other rival, that is also unseen. In the case of the world, there is only two unseen powers. One is an embodiment of a single but complex undivided trinity, and the other is a weak form of power, but enormously  divided into many forms, but yet one source ( the deceit of many gods). The former started an invention, and is running it successfully with control till today. The latter tries  unsuccessfully to gain absolute power even until the end of this world without prevailing. Nonetheless, this two unseen have caused effects that has influenced our decision knowingly or unknowingly till today.

This two unseen powers, that have actually walked  on this earth understand the morphology of this world.  Being the invention of the ultimate creator, that is unseen and yet sovereign  ( Jehovah), he fully understand the structure of everything that is happening, that will happen and that has happened. He even explains why life has its behaviours. He trained  life with the qualities it has, hence, life responses as it ought to.  The ultimate unseen creator influences those that what's to live another life after this life and death.  He has created another invention for them, a new life.  His influence is beyond comprehension to all that exist, but yet, he does not force, after all, it's not all that will take part in that new invention, as it's not all that even fully understands. The other unseen only tries to steal, destroy  the  work of the ultimate creator. You should note that he can not and you should note that the ultimate creator (Jehovah) created this other unseen weak form of  power, actually, he created everything. The weak unseen power, being a spirit also rebelled against the ultimate unseen creator.

So, it should be noted that a healthy relationship with the owner of both the seen ( you and life) and the unseen ( other spiritual powers)  would certainly place you at an uncountable advantage.  If you need to understand more about him, or the other weaker unseen power, or the morphology of life, or even the beginning or a glimpse of the end, refer to the Bible.  Seeking and communing with the ultimate creator is possible and will save you forever. This relationship will repair many broken parts of life that cannot be repaired in the lives of anyone. If life got its existence from him, he is the most important Spirit worth knowing. He speaks and answers, he is alive, he is real, he is unseen by us now, but will be seen by us later in his new life he is about to introduce.  He considers himself a father, and you know what?  He is a father to all that call on him.

Have a week full of deeper understanding.
~ Holy Spirit.
~ Marrian  Lemeh.

Friday, January 27, 2017

Achiever Mel on Divorce with Grace Onayiga.

Certified Family Nurse, Grace Onayiga discuses on how the youth and young adults view Divorce.

Monday, January 16, 2017

Achiever Mel on Divorce with Randy Guttenberger.

Behavioral Analyst and Author of 'Managing Your Crazy Self', discusses on why there has been an increase in divorce in the recent years.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Show off to throw off.

It is very interesting how most people do not even know about this, even though it is dated back to the beginning of time. This principle is a very simple one, it varies in its pace, as it can take its time to fully materialize or it can come to play immediately. It is important to know that this is one of the principles of life. Hence, I will say to you, ' show off '  to be  'thrown off '. What does this mean?  We all know the meaning of  'showing off ', right?  Right, It is a principle that when one consciously shows off, he or she, or they, are indirectly setting themselves to be 'thrown off '. This is because, it is a life principle, showing off makes one lose his or her complete control of rational thinking for that specified moment, and it increases the hunger for more unnecessary show offs along the line.

How many of you have seen a wrestler come into the ring with full aura of self might, and on entry, into half the minute for initial entry he is beaten down flat?  Or a student unnecessarily boosting about some skill and finds it difficult to fully show off  the skills he knew he had mastered the night before? Or a lady showing off her driving skills and suddenly caught up in an accident. The thing is, true worth or character doesn't need to be showed off, because they are readily seen without the efforts of the owner. This is one of the natural principles of life.

You may want to ask, how does this happen? The thing is, when one shows off, he or she, unknowing to them loses their complete control of their thought of caution that may be present when they are calm and alert of what they truly know as individuals. In this time of showing off, all their thought is to show to their crowd what they can actually do that they have not done before and it makes them MOVE IN A PACE TOO FAST FOR THEIR TOTAL  MENTAL AND THOUGHT CONTROL, that even if they felt that they have mastered the task, they fall immediately or gradually, and actually find themselves asking, 'what and why has this happened, I thought I had this'.

Another problem with showing off is that, it creates room for more show offs, that is, if the person eventually falls, he or she tries to find ways to defend what they have attempted to show off. If they had succeeded the first time, it creates more room for show offs as their crowd begins to rain down praises on them and actually rely on their newly acquired skills. It is somewhat proven by nature that when people show off, that skill or material has not been totally rooted in them, because it may be newly acquired. Hence, that could indicate the early use of the skill or show that the person is not totally matured to be able to handle his or her choice of words well to enable them be in total control of their thought, so as not to flaunt.

Showing off in itself is not all that bad, especially when it is minimal, or done unconsciously. The problem is that when it is done continuously and uncontrollably, it tends to cause the down fall of such person easily and sometimes rapidly. So, it is advise to talk more moderately about any thing that you may want to show off. This will enable you to be in full control of your thoughts as it gives you more room to think and coordinate yourself. Avoiding constant show offs, will help you to avoid unnecessary pride. Which in turn helps you not to fall suddenly.   Have a wonderful weekend!