Monday, September 21, 2015

Little things are big in the inside.

Everything that exists has a formation. Formation, which mostly begins small, that, is the start, if there is no starting of something, then there will not be a development of that thing. What I am actually saying is that, little things add up together to create bigger things, pictures, growth, progress etc. So we are advised to start from the very beginning to set something right or start the creation of something that will surely have great height of advancement.
Likewise, in a relationship, one has to consider little things that may be shifted aside as nothing, because, these ‘nothing’ may someday create something that you may worry about. Human beings differ, hence, you have to look into those little things they consider as important or what you feel from experience with them that they consider important, so that you can carefully progress to great heights with them. Not everyone think sending flower periodically is lovely, but, some do think it matters. To some, if you gradually reduce the rate at which you call them, they will feel you are losing interest in them, whereas you are still okay with them. This is the reason why understanding is needed, with this you will often hear, ‘he knows me, and with him I don’t have to explain myself’. Remember to celebrate periodic events like birthday of love ones, this will make them feel special, loved. A little encouragement, motivation, comment, show of care that you may think this person can do without, he looks strong, You don’t know if that may be his last source of strength to move on, to press on, to believe in himself, to take that big step. Always make sure you are giving out words of encouragement, kind comments, even though they do not seem to make any change at that moment. Sometimes, it is not easy to tolerate, some people may not have the patience, but, this is a process that causes a difference in some one’s live with your name permanently stamped as the cause of the change. The beautiful thing is that, in turn, other lives are transformed by this person you just helped, that is how it grows.
When someone knows you are careful about little things and that you pay attention to every detail of his or her life, they value you, and tell you a lot of things they do not share with other people, you become special, and they listen to what you have to say even when they don’t listen to others.  Choose from today to make someone feel special, it is essential in relationships, don’t ignore it.

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Tell now and live tomorrow.


Yes, people, it is very true. Imagine, you met this person today, got to know him better some few weeks later, and it is advancing into a good relationship. But, you have a past, a past that may destroy your present relationship, or the characters from the past can show up to claim you to them and hence, cause a major problem for you. Why allow the past to destroy your present. The solution is simple. Tell it now, at the very beginning of something new, let them all know, so they won’t mock you because of it tomorrow. Sweet heart, it is very important, forget the shame it may bring, because, along with the shame, it will surly bring a healing to you.
Most couples, friends, end up relationships that should have being managed in the right way from the very beginning. Look at this individual, LINDA CRUSS.  She got herself involved in relationships in a tender age that got complicated. As a result of this many relationships, she got pregnant twice, and now, she has two young boys. Later, she met Rolins in Britain, they loved each other, but, due to the fact that she had being rejected by those that had heard of her story, and  they had refused to marry her,  because, they do not want to be responsible for the kids. For this sake, she did not tell Rolins, and she did not also tell her mum who is taking care of her kids that she will be getting married to Rolins in two weeks after their relationship that was three years old. She wanted to secure him before he gets to her any thing deep about her, and she would try her best to suppress the story to make it work. Her mum visited three days before the wedding date, and that led to the end of the relationship, Rolins did not give her any chance for explanations.
No one would want to lose a beautiful relationship; also, no one would like to be lied to, deceived, and kept in the dark in any relationship. Take care.

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

How songs affect Emotions.


Songs . Songs, the food for the soul, it is capable of giving strength when weak, it is a fuel, it gives inspiration, it penetrates even to the deepest part of you, it brings out your raw you from your inside. It is capable of speaking to you, it keeps you going, it teaches. There are so many effects of songs on the being. We will be speaking on the effects of songs in relationships, both the positive and the negative aspect of it.
THE POSITIVE ASPECT OF SONGS - Have you ever being fueled to action by songs? Yeah! People will testify with joy that instead of drugs, they have been able to face simple and complex issues head on, and won through the help of songs. When songs play in it’s fullness into your ears down to your soul, it feeds your spirit with the needed nutrients to get your physical needs or gives you resistance needed for fighting external adverse forces, and you find yourself doing easily things you wished to do but could not alone. Yes, you should know that songs can enhance relationships, even when a relationship is about to break up, some times songs can act as mediators. It also helps in uniting two people who desire for something new, like a relationship. It also acts as an adviser, coming to you with answers to your problems. It causes change through different means like encouraging or criticizing. In schools, it is used in teaching, etc. You see, songs act like forces that can not be overcome by internal and external forces; they lift you up, even to the mountain, capable of causing actions that are powerful.
THE NEGATIVE ASPECT OF SONGS- The most negative aspect of songs, take a look at this illustration, after a broken relationship, the two persons may secretly feel like coming back to their relationship, along the way, the songs they listened to by chance could be  songs saying   am happy to let you go, cos you keep hurting me, now I know my love is not for you…..’, you know what, ASSUMPTIONS will make both of them to keep off, It will fuel unnecessary hatred that is not suppose to be between them, which is induced by the kind of songs they listen to. Hence, they will further split apart. It is also used as a tool for criticism.
Songs are good, used as a tool to express emotions; even the deepest of emotions that words can’t fully express, also, songs may paint  pictures contrary from the reality, and may derail you, confusing you emotionally, remove assumptions, and face the facts squarely. Good luck.